Avoid Shortcuts In Order to Achieve Success!

7 Shortcuts You Will Regret Taking in Life

“It shouldn’t be easy to be amazing. Then everything would be. It’s the things you fight for and struggle with before earning that have the greatest worth. When something’s difficult to come by, you’ll do that much more to make sure it’s even harder – or impossible – to lose.”
Sarah Dessen

“From everyone who has been given much, much will be demanded; and from the one who has been entrusted with much, much more will be asked.” Luke 12:48

Today’s post comes to us from our friends at Marc and Angel Hack Life.  Reading this earlier this morning it provided some much need inspiration for me so I thought I would share on today’s blog.  I have added a few inspiration quotes (and of course some YouTube clips to keep it exciting, but otherwise this is pretty much unedited.  Hope you enjoy!

There is no shortcut to anywhere worth going. There is no substitute for doing the work. Meditate on this every day: “I will do the work.” As Einstein once said, “Genius is 1% talent and 99% effort.” You must run to be a runner. You must write to be a writer. You must actively attend to your relationships if you want them to flourish.

By all means, find ways to be more efficient. But make no mistake that it takes diligent effort to build something worthwhile. There are certainly some success stories out there about people who excelled rather quickly, but you will usually find they had put in years of related work long before anyone was paying attention to their seemingly rapid success. In other words, their current state of achievement is simply all those years of work coming together flawlessly in the present.

The most effective way to handle what must be done is to do it. Put in the required labor. Don’t sell yourself short by taking shortcuts like these:

1. Taking the easiest route possible.

“Enter by the narrow gate; for wide is the gate and broad is the way that leads to destruction, and there are many who go in by it.  Becausenarrow is the gate and difficult is the way which leads to life, and there are few who find it.”  Matthew 7:13-14

“Two roads diverged in a woods – and I took the one less traveled by. And that has made all the difference” Robert Frost

Someday you will look back on your life and realize that everything worthwhile you’ve ever accomplished initially challenged you. And that is as it should be, because big challenges often prepare ordinary people for extraordinary success.

Every struggle arises for a reason – for experience or a lesson. A great journey is never easy, and no dose of adversity along the way is ever a waste of time if you learn and grow from it.

Remember, an arrow can only be shot by pulling it backwards, and such is life. When life is pulling you back with difficulties, it means it’s going to eventually launch you forward in a positive direction. So keep focusing, and keep aiming!

2. Settling for the way things are by default.

The decision to settle for mediocrity is a real killer. If you settle for just anything, you’ll never know what you’re truly worthy of. There is ample time for you to be who you want to be. Despite the struggles that you might be facing, never give up on yourself. Don’t just take the easy way out and settle for less than what you know you are capable of.

Realize that it’s not always about trying to fix something that’s broken either. Sometimes it’s about starting over and creating something new. Sometimes you need to distance yourself to see things clearly. Sometimes growing stronger means growing apart from old habits, relationships, and situations, and finding something different that truly moves you – something that gets you so excited you can’t wait to get out of bed in the morning. That’s what LIVING is all about. Don’t settle.

3. Leaving everything to chance.

It’s not what you do every once in a while, but what you dedicate yourself to on a daily basis that makes a difference in the end. Having a plan, even a flawed one at first, is better than no plan at all.

Don’t trap yourself, endlessly, in a state where you are unable to ask for directions, even though you’re terribly lost, simply because you don’t know your destination. Figure out what you want. When you get real about the true feelings you crave, you end up surprising yourself with an abundance of new opportunities and possibilities.

Bottom line: One day your life will flash before your eyes. Do your best every day to make sure it’s worth watching. Work towards something that brings meaning to your moments.

4. Following the crowd.

Allen Ginsberg once said, “Follow your inner moonlight; don’t hide the madness.” In other words, in this crazy world that’s trying to make you like everyone else, find the courage to be your incredible self.

Never let what other people expect from you dictate what you expect from yourself. Clarity about your true desires is so liberating because you get to stop proving yourself to everyone, including yourself.

We have all been placed on this earth to discover our own way, and we will never be happy if we live someone else’s idea of life. So stop being ashamed of how you feel. You have the right to feel any emotion that comes to you, and to follow a path that makes you happy. Don’t compare yourself to others, or get discouraged by the success of others. Follow your intuition, never give up on yourself, and stop expecting others to understand your journey, especially if they have not walked your same path.

5. Putting things off.

Be frank with yourself. The things you say you will deal with later rarely get done. It’s time to get up and make an immediate difference in your life. You know all those things you’ve been meaning to get done for the past month, year, etc.? Pick one right now and start doing it. Get your hands dirty, challenge your mind, and get sweaty if you have to. Break out of your comforting lull and get involved. If you feel crummy, it’ll make you feel better. If you already feel good, it will make you feel great.

Ultimately, you will not be judged by what you say; you will be judged by what you do. Wake up each morning determined, so you can go to bed satisfied. Have the courage and discipline today to do what is needed instead of simply what is convenient. Or as Pablo Picasso once said, “Only put off until tomorrow what you are willing to die having left undone.”

6. Ignoring people instead of forgiving them.

Forgetting people who hurt you is your gift to them; forgiving people who hurt you is your gift to yourself. Always forgive others, not because they necessarily deserve forgiveness, but because you deserve peace of mind. We are all one, so when we forgive others we forgive ourselves, which is the first step in the healing process. Without forgiveness, the potential for true happiness in your life is limited.

In addition, we often tell ourselves that we’re better off without some people in our lives, and while this can be true, you should also build forgiveness into your character. Keep in mind that some relationships will temporarily split, only to come back together twice as strong as before. Forgiveness alone makes this possible.

7. Cutting too many corners with your important relationships.

It hurts to love someone and not be loved in return, but what hurts even more is to love someone and never find the time to let them know how you feel. There is no greater sadness than holding on to the loving words and deeds you never delivered to those you love.

The people you take for granted today may turn out to be the only ones you need tomorrow. So make plenty of time for those who truly matter. The best gift you can give them is the purity of your full attention. Just be present with them and pay attention to the little things, because when you really miss someone, you miss the little things the most, like just laughing together.

Afterthoughts

The journey begins when we are born. The destination is death. So the journey is far superior to the destination. Don’t sell yourself short! Make your journey worthwhile every single day, because the distance we each get to travel is a mystery.

Getting where you want to go in life is not about finding a shortcut, it’s about putting in the required time and effort. You have to set goals and fulfill your commitments, even when no one would notice but you, and know in your heart why doing so matters.

Your turn…

What would you add to this post? When have you cut yourself short by trying to take a shortcut in life? Leave a comment below and share your thoughts with us.

Until tomorrow make it a better day!

Andrew

@ACSloss

@BetterMenNow

Devotional Tuesday – Special Forces

“Come, follow me,” Jesus said, “and I will send you out to fish for people.” Matthew 4:19

The spirit of these warriors is like the spirit of God’s men.  In fact, when God finds a man who is passionate for His purposes, trained in the Word, filled with the Spirit, humble in heart, He will send that man into situations unsuited for others.  The men, like the missions, are different, even odd, but they are custom trained for these jobs — jobs only they can do.  Wondrously stunned God’s men have said to me, “If you’d have asked me ten years ago if I’d be doing this, I would’ve said you were crazy or something real close.”

Today, we’re called on to do certain missions that only we are trained and equipped for.  God tactically places us  in certain groups of men whether it be seats on an airplane, at work, at home with our family, in cars, in offices and countless situations to help others see God or experience His plan in their situation. God would have us love this kind of life, not be fearful of it. How often have we condemned ourselves for not doing or saying such and such?  These are times when God has us take inventory and his Spirit reveals to us the need to reach out and gives us sensitivity and knowledge on how to step up and deliver in the situation we find ourselves in. Our hearts are humbled and open to our response to his ability.

You’ve been saved from yourself, connected to God’s Holy Spirit, and inserted tactically into life and relationships to accomplish these missions. Remember it’s not all about you; it’s all about Him and his view of you. The truest thing about you is not what you think of you but what He thinks of you.

Father, you will make me a fisher of men.

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Fashion Friday – Three Ways to Wear a T-Shirt

TGIF People!

As you know we have been gone way too long.  I hope you all will come back now that we are settled in and ready to rock n roll.  I know it is getting close to the end of Summer (say it ain’t so!) but the following bit of fashion advice applies year round (especially if you live in the warmer climates where there is no winter.)

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With a Blazer

This is not as easy to pull off as you may think. after all there are rules that must be followed to be successful here.  First, don’t go crazy with the t-shirt.  It should be white, navy or grey.  It also shouldn’t be a crew neck but rather a t-shirt with a small v-neck shape to round out the look and keep it sharp.

Second, do NOT try this with your suit jacket! The last thing you want is to go out looking like an 80’s TV star.  The shoulders of a suit jacket are too square for this kind of casual look.  The blazer should be soft and deconstructed.  They are more causal and the relaxed shoulders go great with the t-shirt.

Finally, make sure the blazer fits at the waist (i.e. when buttoned) to complete the look.  Just a friendly reminder that you should only be buttoning the top button!

With JeansT-shirt with jeans

It is pretty hard to screw up this look.  However, if you fail to pay attention to the fit of your t-shirt you will end up looking like a homeless man (too big) or something straight out of the 70’s (too tight.)  Fit is key for this look so don’t miss this detail!

Graphic Tees

If you really want to stand out from the crowd, throw on a graphic t-shirt (think subtle not Metallica Ride the Lightening.)  No sports t-shirts, no college t-shirts and of course under no circumstances should it have come from Ed Hardy.  Think classy not obnoxious.

How to wear a t-shirt

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Devotional Tuesday – We Are Back!

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Good morning everyone!

As many of you have noted we haven’t been active on our page for a bit and I do apologize.  My family and I recently relocated to Nashville, TN so life has been a bit crazy.  I hadn’t realized my domain name renewal had lapsed but we are back up and running.

I hope you enjoy today’s devotional courtesy of Every Man Ministries.

God’s Voice

For he is our God and we are the people of his pasture, the flock under his care.  Today, if only you would hear his voice. Psalm 95:7

We hear the term “God’s voice” what does that mean? What impact do those words have on our minds? We have to admit that what happens in many cases is a term loses its impact the more we hear it, and we don’t look at our response to that particular term.

We are told in His Word that God has supplied His voice to each of us individually through the Holy Spirit who dwells within each of us as his children. The term “still small voice” is used in scripture, which indicates that it is a clear voice within us that speaks to us quietly. Often when real communication takes place it’s because we are very intent on hearing that voice.  We are leaning forward to listen, making sure we don’t miss a word, we are anticipating, wanting to be sure we are reading the lips of God.  If we are not intent, this is an indication that we have become somewhat blasé about the person who loves us perfectly, unconditionally, who has our best interest in mind. We are not so apt to receive his communication because we are so intent on the things that we can actually see around us, circumstances, relationships etc. Remember unless we are anticipating God speaking to us, we cannot receive and experience His amazing love for us.

Make no mistake — God has you reading this exactly because He wants us to realize that His voice is very important to us, and that we are very susceptible to the world, the flesh, and the devil without His guidance that he has surely placed within us.

Father, thank you for the faith that you have given me to listen intently and on purpose, to your words meant especially for me.

Devotional Tuesday – The Main Thing

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I tell you the truth, the Son can do nothing by himself; he can do only what he sees his Father doing because whatever the Father does the Son also does. For the Father loves the Son and shows him all he does. John 5:19-20

In your journey to realize God’s dream for your life, God’s will must be at the forefront of your mind.  What is God’s will?  It’s directly reflected in the character of Christ.  In Jesus, we see an aggressive freedom to pursue, articulate, and accept His Father’s will.  In his connection to the Father’s will, God’s man sees it, feels it, adopts it, integrates it, and in is individually motivated to pursue it.

God’s dream for you is identical. In the Gospels, Jesus presents a powerful picture of His Father as the creative mind and Himself the primary agent for its expression on earth. It’s a dynamic expression rooted in love, intimate knowledge and a mutual commitment to accomplish a very specific purpose.  Before Jesus had healed one person, cast out one demon, or preached one message on the kingdom, the emphatic Father laid the foundation for His Son’s fulfillment of His will by cementing their bond.  It’s a bond we will experience when we begin to venture successfully into the Father’s will.

With this type of love pulsating from His Father toward him, Jesus could afford to emotionally and relationally live for an audience of One and the will of One.  He would not need the approval or acceptance of men.  This made Him Fearless in His focus and approval or acceptance of men.  This made Him fearless in His focus and pursuit of the Father’s priorities for His time on earth.

Father, it is your will that fear is not to rule my life.

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Because we can always be better men