Fashion Friday – What to Wear on a Date


“The average man doesn’t care about fashion, which is why he will always be average.”

You only get one chance to make a first impression.  Thus, what you decide to wear on a first date (or any date for that matter) will say a lot about you.  It will say even more about what you think about your date.  If you decide to wear True Religion jeans and your favorite Super Bad t-shirt, it will indicate you have given up on life and have no interest in trying to impress that beautiful women on your arm.

Even if you are on a date with your wife you should want to look sharp so don’t blow it.  Many men can find dressing for a date (especially a first date) daunting.  Don’t be that kind of guy.  Get your shit together and look sharp.  We are here to help!

Here are two looks: one is based on a date that is dinner and drinks and the other is if you are doing something more active.  From these two looks you can create a lot of other looks for future dates.  Trust me if you are going to be looking this good, you will have more dates in your future.

Here is the first look:

What to wear on a first dinner date men

Dinner and Drinks

It doesn’t matter if it’s the first date, the third date, or the 100th date, if you’re going out for dinner and drinks, you should be wearing a sport coat. Our recommended pairing is with brown leather shoes, dark denim (or 5-pocket chinos), and a button-down shirt. Leave the tie at home—this a date, not a board meeting. If you want to add something extra, throw in a pocket square.

Here is the second look:

What to wear on a first date casual men

Something More Active

Whether you’re hitting a street fest, a concert, or jumping out of a plane, the more active your activity, the less formal the dress code. We’re typically partial to wearing brown leather shoes, but depending on the scenario, sneakers (tennis shoes are not sneakers) are a totally appropriate option. We’d recommend pairing them with stretch denim for ultimate comfort, and a button-down shirt.

That is it.  Being stylish is really simple, it only takes a little effort and thoughtfulness.  You will thank me in the long run if you make some efforts to dress sharp at all times, not just for dates.



A Man’s Survival Guide – 10 Items You Should Always Have in Your Car – Part 2


Earlier this week we began Part 1 of this series; if you want to get caught up you can read that blog here.  By the time you get to the end of this post you may be wondering how we could have left off one of the most essential things every guy needs in his car.  We apologize in advance for this oversight but we have your back this time around.  Thus, if you are able to include something like this, this or this in your car, then you my man are one lucky son of a bitch.

With those distractions out of the way, let’s roll…


No matter how much we use plastic, Apple Pay or other virtual means of paying for goods and services, cash will always be king. You may find yourself in a scenario of needing to buy a snack or beverage from a vending machine at a rest stop or even an old timey side of the road store.  If those aren’t enough don’t forget about traveling on toll roads where cash is the only option.  Under most circumstances your plastic and Apple Watch aren’t going to help you.


Put a couple of hundred dollars, in different denominations in an old sock and toss it in the trunk or glove box.  That should help you confront any emergencies that come your way.

Jumper Cables

This is perhaps the most basic item you should have in your vehicle. Even if you have a brand new car this item shouldn’t be ignored. You never know when you are going to leave your dome light on overnight or have some other mishap drain your battery.

Nothing is worse for a man than having to ask another man to borrow jumper cables.  This will immediately call into question your manliness to say nothing of your end-of-the-world preparedness.

Magnetic Flashlight

Nowadays everyone is like “I don’t need a flashlight, I have one on my phone.”  Yeah, that is great if you don’t need your phone in an emergency or if you don’t need to work hands free.  If your car breaks down the last thing you should be wasting your cell battery on is a flashlight app (or Facebook.)  It is worth the investment to buy an LED magnetic flashlight, trust me it will work much better than your cell phone.

You can secure the flashlight to your vehicle which will allow you to work with both of your hands.  You can get one of these guys for about $40 or so depending on where you are looking.  Not a bad idea to keep some extra batteries around too.

Duct Tape


I am sure you have all seen something like this before, although perhaps not to this extent.  The reason you see cars being held together by duct tape is because it works!

Should you ever get into a minor accident and you need to reattach a mirror, bumper or something similar, having duct tape will be a quick and temporary fix.  It can also be helpful when needing to tie down your children inside or outside of the car, so don’t limit your usage only to repairs!

Emergency Cellphone Charger

You probably have a regular charger at the ready to plug into your car when you’re low on juice. But if your car’s out of power, that’s not going to do you any good.

Keep an external portable battery charger with you. All you need to do is plug your phone into it for a quick power up. However, make sure it’s fully charged before you hit the road, which can take several hours. Otherwise, it’s as useless as your dead phone. Choose one that’s compatible with most USB-enabled devices like the Rapid Recharge Portable Power Bank ($63).

If you don’t want to worry about keeping another item charged, opt for a non-electric charger for an emergency call. Try the BoostTurbine 4000 ($80). You can charge your cell or your tablet with its hand crank—four minutes of arm power equals about one minute of talk time or a few texts. Enough time to tell emergency crews where you’re located.

So what did we miss?  Let’s see what you got!  Leave your suggestions in the comments!

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Devotional Tuesday – What is Your Harvest?

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Today’s selection comes again courtesy of our friends at C3 Journey.

You started the year off with a bang. You had a solid resolution & maybe you’ve even hung in there & stuck with it.

Your job is still there & for that you are thankful. Your marriage is still there & for that you are thankful as well. But something’s missing…and you can’t quite put your finger on it. You’re content but that just doesn’t seem like enough. You’re busy but don’t seem to be going anywhere.

Maybe you’ve lost some of your God-focus?

I wanted to share some Scripture that hit me right between the eyes related to this.

Jeremiah 12:13 (NLT) “My people have planted wheat but are harvesting thorns. They have worn themselves out, but it has done them no good.”

During this time the people had turned their backs on God & were trusting in their own ways & means. The Father wanted nothing more than for them to come back to Him & place their trust in Him again.

He has the same desire today!!

Often times we get too busy in life & the blinders go up. Our minds get numb from the day-to-day. But let’s not forget to keep the Father front-and-center in ALL that we do! Don’t let your busy routine consume you & steal your vision of the Divine. Doing so causes a priority switch in which “He” takes a back seat to “me”–my job, my marriage, my workout.

To create the fire you are looking for will require a spark. That spark will require a shift. A shift in relationships. A shift in communication. A shift back into the Word. A shift back into church. A shift back to prayer. It doesn’t have to be a huge shift, but just enough to tilt the axis of your world ever-so-slightly.

You planted a good crop & you are sick of harvesting thorns. Find your God-focus and find the harvest you’ve been searching for!!


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A Man’s Survival Guide – 10 Items You Should Always Have in Your Car – Part 1


My wife and I own one car.  We also have one child.  Even with only having one child our car has become a wasteland of left behind socks, torn GQ magzines, empty and crushed water bottles, candy wrappers and an assortment of sticky pennies (not sure how they got sticky to begin with.)  Those are all the non-essential items in our car, well there maybe a few more…

There is another set of essential items you should always have in your car just in case that “flu outbreak” is a bit more serious than the government will admit.  So next time you are prepping for a road trip be sure you check all of these off your list before heading out. We will cover all 10 of these essential in a two part series so be sure to come back for Part II later this week.

Siphon Pump

When I was in high school (a long time ago) we had this one very cheap friend of ours (what’s up Jeremy?) who tried to milk every last ounce of gas from his tank before filling up.  It should come as no surprise then, that I would often see his vehicle parked by the side of the road which could only mean one thing: Jeremy had run out of gas…again.  It was always entertaining.

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If you are like Jeremy or you simply want to be prepared, you shouldn’t go anywhere without a siphon pump.  If you run out of fuel many miles from a station you may be able to borrow some fuel from whatever good Samaritan stops by to offer assistance.  You can get a manual version for around $12 (but there are also electric options available too.)

Water Bottles

While we certainly never hope you crash off the road and need to survive several days trapped in your car, having several bottles of water can literally be a life saver.  It certainly doesn’t hurt to have some water around if you end up having to wait for a tow truck for an hour or more either.

And for any parents with infants, Sharlay and I have found extra water bottles are not only great for having to make formula, but also as a wonderful toy to distract your child.

Traction Mats or Sand

When I used to go deer hunting with my dad, we used to travel to Northern Minnesota into some pretty backwoods type places.  The road into our hunting spot was nothing more than two ruts in the dirt and often if it rained or got super cold (which it does frequently in Minnesota) we would often get stuck on our way in or our way out. Yet rarely did anyone plan for this occurrence even though it happened every year.  Don’t let that happen to you!

Whether it is snow, ice or mud you are likely to encounter getting stuck at some point in your life while operating a vehicle.  Even if you live somewhere that doesn’t get snow or ice (How you doing Atlanta?) you should always be prepared.

You can either purchase some traction mats (they come in plastic, rubber or lightweight steel) or you can pick up some sand to help you get unstuck.  If you are really desperate and possibly have the misfortune of owning a cat, you can always use kitty litter.

And if you are just looking for something to help out with ice under your tires, snow salt is also something worth carrying around in your vehicle.

Reflective Triangles

I have to admit, as a man, I would prefer to use road flares.  There is just something bad ass about a road flare.  However, you do run the risk of the flares burning out before you are done fixing your car or before the Calvary arrives with help.

Thus, the safer bet is to use reflective triangles.  They will usually run you about $25 or so for three.  Unlike flares they never need to be replaced and you don’t have to worry about getting them to work.

Red warning triangle with a broken down car

Store at least three in your ride so you can put them directly behind your vehicle. U.S. Federal Motor Vehicle guidelines advise putting one triangle 10 feet behind the vehicle, one 100 feet behind the vehicle, and one 100 feet in front of the vehicle—all in the center of the driving lane. If the road curves, place the reflective triangles ahead of the bend to warn approaching cars.


While it is a no-brainer to carry blankets in your car during the winter you might be unaware of how helpful they can be in warmer months.

If you have to work under your car or have to kneel while changing a tire, a blanket can help prevent you from frying yourself on the hot blacktop while you work.  Don’t worry about how big the blanket it, just fold it up and store it away for future use.  Trust us, you will be glad its there.

Okay that is it for Part One!  If you have any thoughts on the above be sure to leave ’em in the comments box.  Until tomorrow Be a Better Man.

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Devotional Tuesday – Refine Your Faith – Courtesy of Tony Dungy


Hello Gentlemen!

“Physical training is good, but training for godliness is much better, promising benefits in this life and in the life to come.” I Timothy 4:8

Whenever I read this verse, I think back to our locker room.  We had some absolute physical specimens, guys who looked like they came to life out of a college anatomy textbook.  The spent hours and hours in the weight room exercising, building strength and flexibility to be able to do their jobs better.  They didn’t get to their position as some of the best athletes of the world by accident, but rather through exhausting physical training, strictly structured nutritional diets, and a generally careful approach to anything they put in their bodies.

If these guys had spent that kind of time and effort on their spiritual life, there would have been no spiritual body fat, and we would have had a locker room full of spiritual giants, not just physical ones.  And think of what that would mean for our youth, who hold many sports figures up as role models.  Not only would they aspire to properly condition their bodies to better play the games they chose to play, but it could help them develop their minds and hearts by encouraging them to grow in their faith-a discipline with eternal consequences.

The same is true with any follower of Christ.  We need to become spiritual giants.  It begins with a commitment to Bible reading, prayer and joining a Christ-centered church as well as being accountable to at least one other trusted believer.  We must also take care of the temples-our bodies-that God has given us.  As more and more news comes to light concerning the harmful and illegal substances being used in professional sports to gain an edge to perform better, we need to make sure we and our children are kept safe.  We should always watch what we put in our bodies-eating healthy food and drink and eliminating harmful or potentially harmful substances.

Do you need to increase your spiritual training?  Set some goals and begin today.

UNCOMMON KEY –> Grow in the knowledge and wisdom of God through a regular, consistent training regimen.  If possible, find a training partner with whom you can be accountable.