Fashion Friday – Pulling Off a Printed Shirt

I can already hear many of your eyes rolling at the thought of wearing a printed shirt but hear me out.  Let’s be honest your current fall look is boring by now.  Your co-workers, friends and all the women at the bar know what you will look like every time you show up.  Give your plaid shirts a rest man!

Not only will a bold print help maintain the casual feel it also will help you stand out from just about any other guy in the room.  What does that mean for you?  More attention from the ladies.  Who doesn’t want that?

Here are three takes on pulling off the look.

The Bold Approach

Floral print shirt

Yes, this shirt is covered in flowers. In small scales and subtle colors, floral prints are the coolest way to freshen up your fall wardrobe.  Don’t let your neanderthal friends tell you floral prints aren’t manly.  Just remind them after you have scored with a hot chick while they went home (maybe) with a woman based on her “beer goggle” profile.

The Tame Approach

Dot print shirt

If you still can’t stomach having flowers on your shirt (read: I am a big baby with questionable style), you can still opt for a  toned-down option (like micro dots) that’ll help liven up your look without stepping too far out of your comfort zone.

The Formal Approach

Print Shirt Tux

When dressing up, you can’t go wrong with a classic white shirt. That said, breaking free from the norm can really pay off.  Again, one of our main goals here is to get you some attention, especially for those of you who lack personality (just a joke!)  Women will check you out for no other reason than the interesting style choice and if you have a half-way decent mug to go with it, you might just end up scoring one hell of a night!

That is it for us at Be a Better Man!  Have a great weekend!

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Devotional Tuesday – A Hero for the Ages


“Fixing our eyes on Jesus, the pioneer and perfecter of faith. For the joy set before him he endured the cross, scorning its shame, and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God.Consider him who endured such opposition from sinners, so that you will not grow weary and lose heart.”  Hebrews 12:2-3

We can’t look up at the Man on the cross and lose in our quest to throw spiritual caution and fear to the wind.  In fact the longer we look at Him up there, the more dangerous we become for the Kingdom.  We join the ranks of men who saw Him from a distance and risked, men who walked with Him up close, and men who through the centuries endangered their lives to demonstrate their love.

If you are to bet at all, study the Man who risked it all.

Keep your eyes on Jesus who both began and finished this race we’re in. Study how he did it.  Because he never lost sight of where he was headed – that exhilarating finish in and with God – he could put up with anything along the way; the cross, shame, whatever. Now he’s there, in the place of honor, right alongside the Father.  When we find ourselves flagging in our faith, go over the story again, item by item, that long litany of hostility he plowed through. That will shoot adrenaline into our souls! Faith in this historical fact will bring us through.

Father, you have not held back on the gifts you have given me to do the things that will bless You, me and others. Thank you!

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Devotional Tuesday – Risk


“For those who are led by the Spirit of God are the children of God.” Romans 8:14

Men are made to risk, to encourage you to be an aggressive risk taker for God, and above all to get you to act on what you know God is calling you to do.  “What is it?” you ask.  Here’s a clue: whatever makes you swallow big. My friend Lee Strobel puts it this way:

“When we take a risk, we’re stretching beyond what we think are our limits in order to reach for a goal.  Inevitably, that involves overcoming some sort of tear — fear of the unknown, of physical harm, of failure, of humiliation, even of success. And it involves adventure”.

There are two ways to go in your life of faith: smooth, residential, safe, and boring: or off-road, twisting, riskier, and exciting. Which road would the little boy in you take? Your energy and willingness to invest it for Christ is not slipping God’s watchful eye.  He’s hoping, you’ll cross the line in those areas of your life that will most stretch you to be His man — right now.

The question for you is this: Can God be trusted?

The thing to remember is God is working in you and your drive will be determined by the faith that you have in Him. Faith is like a muscle it grows with exercise, your risk decisions will be made regarding the amount of the exercise you give your faith.  Attempt something of risk according to your faith and then keep growing in the safety of God and the trust He affords. What will you risk, or attempt for your faith today?

Father, thank you for the faith you have given me to attempt something of risk for you. You have promised that you will lead me into all truth.

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Is it Time To Close Up Shop @ Be A Better Man?


Hello dear readers!  I hope, as always, you are having a very productive and fulfilling week.

I started this blog three-and-a-half years ago, not with the intent on making any kind of money (which I haven’t) but rather utilizing my writing ability to hopefully help encourage men, to be “better.”  I have tried to take an honest approach to all things male and those topics/interests that influence our lives the most as men.

Over this time I have not held back, including writing two powerful articles about how awful my job was at Ernst & Young, which of course got me into trouble and resulted in my old boss (in NYC) hating me.  I have also tried to write openly and honestly about my own struggles, which many of you I know have appreciated.  Of course I have also taken the time to write opaulina-web-featurer share with you funny, humorous and hopefully helpful stories to make your days or weeks a little bit better.  Likewise, I have never been afraid to write blogs to help you idiots get laid, get a date or simply include stupid stuff with pictures of beautiful women to take your mind off things for a bit.  Finally, I have tried to help you bozo’s with your fashion game because it needs it!

However, after 3+ years of writing I think it may be time to hang up the gloves.  For the few of you who have reached out to encourage me in my writing and to comment on how I have helped you etc, I will be forever grateful.

Aside from a few rare moments when I have managed to get shared on other blogs, we have consistently been running at only about 70 – 100 views a week and sometimes as low as 30 – 50.  Some of those views are my wife so I have to discount those numbers even further (sorry babe!)

I didn’t start this blog in the hopes of having 1.1m views a week. Besides I don’t have the time to keep up with that active of a blog anyway.  My goal, like I said was to help other men to be better than they were the day before.  I just don’t think I am having the impact I wanted to have on reaching out to men.  Some of that is on me for not staying on top of blogging more frequently and in failing to provide fresh content daily.  That has been a real struggle at times for me since I am, for the most part, the only one writing stuff for Be a Better Man.

I have tried to partner with other bloggers with varying degrees of success.  Many of the bloggers ended up fizzling out and not coming through on their promises and/or content.  Others have been kind enough to share my posting on their websites which has boosted traffic here, but only for 3 – 4 days and it drops off again.  Some of the larger outlets such as The Good Men Project wouldn’t really allow me to write the way I wanted to write.  After all, you can’t dare offend anyone these days, unless they are white Christian males.  I didn’t want to write something that was contrary to my core values or the core values I beliemaxresdefaultve we should live by as men.  All they wanted to write about was the “modern” view of masculinity which apparently is all touchy-feely these days rather than a kick in the pants.  Any attempt to write or encourage “typical” male behavior was heavily frowned upon.  You couldn’t tell a man he was wrong (even if he was) or that his behavior was idiotic (unless that behavior was consistent with a Christian world view, which of course, was more than fair game for targeting) or to challenge him to be brave, strong and courageous, because apparently those aren’t core values for the “modern man.”  There are just certain things I won’t do and compromising my core beliefs just for readership numbers isn’t something I am willing to do.

Studies have shown over and over again how important it is for men to come together to share their lives with each other. This can be done in many formats of course and can be spiritual in nature or not spiritual in nature.  Men thrive in atmospheres of competitive accountability and encouragement.  For many of us there is a certain comfort level that must be achieved in this kind of setting and it can take a long time to get there.  However, once there is that comfort level the growth, maturity, unity and power of men is unrivaled.

I am very passionate about these topics and about men being better men.  However, if I am not having an impact on men in this way through this blog than I must reconsider the personal as well as the financial cost of continuing to keep this blog up.  Perhaps doing a weekly podcast would be more preferred over reading a blog every day.  I am just not sure at this point.

My wife is begging me to keep the blog up because she likes to read what I write and thinks it is such a great resource for men but honestly, that is the problem.  Don’t get me wrong it has been great to get feedback from women who say how much their husbands, boyfriends, brothers, fathers etc., need to hear or read what I write. Yet I rarely, if ever hear from any guys who say the same thing.  It is not surprising that the largest response was to my blogs related to sex but I don’t want to write about sex everyday.


I am not officially shutting down the website yet and will keep writing as I have time until the end of the year.  However, barring some kind of serious turnaround in readership numbers or an out pouring of support among the 10 people who stop by every day, it is likely that we will no longer be here come January 1.

For those of you who have stopped by on a regular basis I really do appreciate it, your comments and encouragement have always meant the world to me and allow me to keep going when things have gotten bleak for me.  I hope you enjoy the rest of your week and have an amazing weekend planned!

Until next time, make it a better day!


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Devotional Tuesday – Ignition

sunx360“I am not ashamed of the gospel, because it is the power of God for the salvation of everyone who believes.” Romans 1:16

God’s men should expect our initiative to ignite His power and the gospel to deliver a powerful blow to the heart. God’s man has an even greater promise.  The power is always going to be there when he jumps into the mission of rescuing people.  He will be carried, supported, and improved whether or not the person receives Christ.  He will feel the power and energy that only come after obedience.

More times than not when sharing my faith, I have experienced something even greater than personal satisfaction — the power of salvation.  Each incident of the sharing of the gospel has proven to me that God’s power is waiting to be unleashed if we move against fear and reason to share our Lord with someone.  That is the real eye-opener.

The goal is to get to this place of responsibility, availability, and all-important expectancy.  With such faith in the gospel’s power, our small role becomes clear and we learn to confidently trust in its ability over our own.  In fact, when we risk sharing our faith frequently, our experience of God’s power enables us to say, “I am not ashamed of the gospel because it is the power of God for the salvation of everyone who believes.” This is where every God’s man gets to be, in every facet of life.  The problem is most men hedge their bets and stop short.  We don’t experience the confidence until we risk sharing the gospel to get the results.

Thank you, Father for the power of your Holy Spirit within me, for I am not ashamed of the Gospel.

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