Fashion Friday – Pulling Off a Printed Shirt

I can already hear many of your eyes rolling at the thought of wearing a printed shirt but hear me out.  Let’s be honest your current fall look is boring by now.  Your co-workers, friends and all the women at the bar know what you will look like every time you show up.  Give your plaid shirts a rest man!

Not only will a bold print help maintain the casual feel it also will help you stand out from just about any other guy in the room.  What does that mean for you?  More attention from the ladies.  Who doesn’t want that?

Here are three takes on pulling off the look.

The Bold Approach

Floral print shirt

Yes, this shirt is covered in flowers. In small scales and subtle colors, floral prints are the coolest way to freshen up your fall wardrobe.  Don’t let your neanderthal friends tell you floral prints aren’t manly.  Just remind them after you have scored with a hot chick while they went home (maybe) with a woman based on her “beer goggle” profile.

The Tame Approach

Dot print shirt

If you still can’t stomach having flowers on your shirt (read: I am a big baby with questionable style), you can still opt for a  toned-down option (like micro dots) that’ll help liven up your look without stepping too far out of your comfort zone.

The Formal Approach

Print Shirt Tux

When dressing up, you can’t go wrong with a classic white shirt. That said, breaking free from the norm can really pay off.  Again, one of our main goals here is to get you some attention, especially for those of you who lack personality (just a joke!)  Women will check you out for no other reason than the interesting style choice and if you have a half-way decent mug to go with it, you might just end up scoring one hell of a night!

That is it for us at Be a Better Man!  Have a great weekend!

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Devotional Tuesday – A Hero for the Ages


“Fixing our eyes on Jesus, the pioneer and perfecter of faith. For the joy set before him he endured the cross, scorning its shame, and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God.Consider him who endured such opposition from sinners, so that you will not grow weary and lose heart.”  Hebrews 12:2-3

We can’t look up at the Man on the cross and lose in our quest to throw spiritual caution and fear to the wind.  In fact the longer we look at Him up there, the more dangerous we become for the Kingdom.  We join the ranks of men who saw Him from a distance and risked, men who walked with Him up close, and men who through the centuries endangered their lives to demonstrate their love.

If you are to bet at all, study the Man who risked it all.

Keep your eyes on Jesus who both began and finished this race we’re in. Study how he did it.  Because he never lost sight of where he was headed – that exhilarating finish in and with God – he could put up with anything along the way; the cross, shame, whatever. Now he’s there, in the place of honor, right alongside the Father.  When we find ourselves flagging in our faith, go over the story again, item by item, that long litany of hostility he plowed through. That will shoot adrenaline into our souls! Faith in this historical fact will bring us through.

Father, you have not held back on the gifts you have given me to do the things that will bless You, me and others. Thank you!

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Devotional Tuesday – Risk


“For those who are led by the Spirit of God are the children of God.” Romans 8:14

Men are made to risk, to encourage you to be an aggressive risk taker for God, and above all to get you to act on what you know God is calling you to do.  “What is it?” you ask.  Here’s a clue: whatever makes you swallow big. My friend Lee Strobel puts it this way:

“When we take a risk, we’re stretching beyond what we think are our limits in order to reach for a goal.  Inevitably, that involves overcoming some sort of tear — fear of the unknown, of physical harm, of failure, of humiliation, even of success. And it involves adventure”.

There are two ways to go in your life of faith: smooth, residential, safe, and boring: or off-road, twisting, riskier, and exciting. Which road would the little boy in you take? Your energy and willingness to invest it for Christ is not slipping God’s watchful eye.  He’s hoping, you’ll cross the line in those areas of your life that will most stretch you to be His man — right now.

The question for you is this: Can God be trusted?

The thing to remember is God is working in you and your drive will be determined by the faith that you have in Him. Faith is like a muscle it grows with exercise, your risk decisions will be made regarding the amount of the exercise you give your faith.  Attempt something of risk according to your faith and then keep growing in the safety of God and the trust He affords. What will you risk, or attempt for your faith today?

Father, thank you for the faith you have given me to attempt something of risk for you. You have promised that you will lead me into all truth.

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Devotional Tuesday – Ignition

sunx360“I am not ashamed of the gospel, because it is the power of God for the salvation of everyone who believes.” Romans 1:16

God’s men should expect our initiative to ignite His power and the gospel to deliver a powerful blow to the heart. God’s man has an even greater promise.  The power is always going to be there when he jumps into the mission of rescuing people.  He will be carried, supported, and improved whether or not the person receives Christ.  He will feel the power and energy that only come after obedience.

More times than not when sharing my faith, I have experienced something even greater than personal satisfaction — the power of salvation.  Each incident of the sharing of the gospel has proven to me that God’s power is waiting to be unleashed if we move against fear and reason to share our Lord with someone.  That is the real eye-opener.

The goal is to get to this place of responsibility, availability, and all-important expectancy.  With such faith in the gospel’s power, our small role becomes clear and we learn to confidently trust in its ability over our own.  In fact, when we risk sharing our faith frequently, our experience of God’s power enables us to say, “I am not ashamed of the gospel because it is the power of God for the salvation of everyone who believes.” This is where every God’s man gets to be, in every facet of life.  The problem is most men hedge their bets and stop short.  We don’t experience the confidence until we risk sharing the gospel to get the results.

Thank you, Father for the power of your Holy Spirit within me, for I am not ashamed of the Gospel.

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Dating Advice 101 – Landing that Second Date


We are foregoing the normal fashion blog today to discuss something almost as important: dating.

While getting a first date can at times be tricky, the real difficult part in dating women is locking in the second date.  If you need help getting a first date I highly recommend you watch the movie Hitch.  I know it is a romantic comedy but there are worse things you could be doing than watching a movie with my all-time celebrity crush Eva Mendes.

In the movie there are a lot of pointers for not only scoring a first date but getting to the second date.  If you fast forward to the 2:35 mark in the clip below you will find the key to getting a second date.

“It’s your job not to mess it up.”

We often can spend too much time on the first date doing many of the following: wondering if she likes you, is she having a good time, starting at her boobs/butt, not engaging in conversation or being too worried about what to say.  Like Will Smith says, “She is already out with you.  That means she said yes, when she could have said no. That means she made a plan, when she could have just blown you off.  It means it is no longer your job to make her like you.”

And by not messing it up, we mean putting in the work to ensure you get a second date.  As many of you know I am a happily married man which means I obviously had no problem getting a second date with Sharlay.  However, I know many of you are still going to be skeptical wondering if I really have enough experience to be believed.  First, all these come from my very own arsenal of romance and charm. Second, I dated A LOT of women in New York City.  Before I met Sharlay  I would have to say I dated at least 20 different women during the 5 years I was there before her and I met.  That may seem high to some and low to others but I can tell you it was the most women I have ever dated in my previous 31 years combined. I managed to get second and third dates with most of them so I am pretty confident I know what I am talking about.  I mean have you seen my wife?  No way should I have gotten a woman that beautiful!



Follow these steps and I promise you are well on your way.

Make a Plan Dummy

She wants to see you put in some effort to the date.  Prior to the date did she ever mention wanting to try a particular restaurant?  Or perhaps she said she had been dying to check out a new bar.  You Image result for Dating quotescan plan on meeting for drinks at said bar and if the night goes well head to that same restaurant for dinner.  Maybe she said she loves mini-golf (not likely I know) or perhaps bowling.  Have a back up option to do something like that after dinner.  If you are able to pull off something that shows you have been listening to her and paying attention she will be impressed I promise.

When Sharlay and I went on our first date I made plans with her to grab dinner.  I made no mention of doing anything afterwards. However, I had also made reservations for a karaoke place that was within walking distance from the restaurant.  The karaoke place was within walking distance to Grand Central Terminal which is where she would be headed after the date to go home.  I was charming enough (according to Sharlay) that I didn’t need the karaoke to seal the second date as she was already on our third date halfway through dinner.  I told you I was good.  It’s not false bravado.

You execute a good plan on a first date and I promise you she is going to say yes to a second date just to see what you can pull off. I cannot overstate how important this step is.

Reasonable Expectations

If you go into a date with reasonable expectations, I personally believe it will make it easier for you to be yourself on the date.  That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t look forward to the date, make a good plan for the date or hold back on the charm.  If you have too high of expectations for a date you can often put too much pressure on yourself.  You want to be loose and carefree on the date.  As Hitch says, “She may not want the whole truth but she does want the real you” so don’t set yourself up for failure.

This can be more challenging when you luck out and manage to score a date with a major hottie but the same rule applies.  I datedBrittney-Palmer-2016-calendar-Hawaiian-style-ali-fashion-0706-3 some truly beautiful women when I was in New York and I am not even sure how it happened most of the time. However, everyone of them turned out to be weird in one way or another.  One of them was super cold and not affectionate at all.  Another one hated going on dates in public and only want to come over to my place or me to hers (which wasn’t terrible if you know what I mean.)  One woman one was super possessive after only two dates and yet another one was such a terrible, awful kisser I just couldn’t take it any more.  The point is they all had their faults and I learned that just because a woman was hot didn’t mean she was going to have what it took for me to stay interested.

I met Sharlay on so I knew from her photos she was beyond gorgeous but for the most part I didn’t care.  Heading into the date I fully anticipated it would be just another evening with another beautiful woman who had nothing more to offer other than her looks.  Obviously I was wrong, but had I let her looks intimidate on the first date things might not have worked out so well.  As a matter of fact I was so uninterested in how she looked it really opened her eyes to the fact I was a different kind of man than she was used to dating.  It really impressed her that I didn’t fawn over her looks and didn’t get caught staring at her chest.

Curiosity May Have Killed the Cat But It Will Help  You Get…

You are meeting a person for the first time ever and while it probably isn’t the first time you have spoken to her, there should be enough mystery about her, you should have no shortage of questions to ask.  However, this isn’t an interview so don’t grill her to death.

As you guys talk you may find out she loves the same television show or movie as you.  You could ask her who her top three favorite or least favorite characters are in the show.  This is likely to either start a hot debate about the merits of the charters or an instant bonding moment whereby you agree that Janice from the Soprano’s might be the most annoying character of any television show ever created.  Boom. Now you have something in common.

Another easy conversation starter is to ask what was her favorite vacation destination.  Let her talk about it and then ask her “If I were to take a trip to [insert her answer here] what would be the top 3 things I needed to do or see?”  It will show that you already value her opinion and respect her which is never a bad thing.

If she is at all normal these kinds of curious questions will be asked of you in return and before you know it you have been talking non-stop with her throughout the date.  Being able to converse with her is going to win you a lot of brownie points and getting a second date isn’t the only thing you will be getting.

Steer Clear

First dates aren’t the time to be asking about her views on gun control, abortion, Donald Trump, same sex marriage, having kids or the crisis in the Middle East.  Those items (and plenty of others) are sure to derail any chance you have at a second date.


You may get lucky and find out you agree on all of those issues but chances are you won’t and it likely will end up in a debate or argument that is just not conducive to a romantic evening.  No one wants to hear how smart you think you are.  Leave it at home.

Be a Man

There are a lot of men who are intimidated by being out with a beautiful woman.  Don’t let the fact she is beautiful change the man you are or your expectations of her on a date.  For instance, if you are out on your date and she keeps checking her phone you should call her out on it.  You need to do so in a a self assured way which includes remaining calm and being patient but you should definitely do it.

Before Sharlay and I even went on a date I had to do something similar.  She gave me her number almost right away (I didn’t even need to ask for it) so of course I called her a few days after I received it.  Long story short, she wasn’t so great about returning calls or texts.  Finally, I called one last time and got her voicemail. I left a message simply saying that if she was no longer interested in going on a date that was fine just let me know so I can stop wasting my time.  It may not have been that rude but that was the basic message.  Guess what?  She called me back!

She would later tell me that most guys would hang around forever and try to get her to call them or text them simply because they were so enamored with her beauty (i.e. they really wanted to hook up with her.)  So when I was rather quick to draw the line and call it quits she was surprised and also attracted to me simply because I was standing up for myself.

Throw Out “The Rules”

I hate all the so-called “rules” about when you should call a woman back after the first date.  Don’t listen to those boneheads who suggest you wait 3 days to call her.  Chances are she is a hot commodity (pun intended) so if you wait too long some other dude is going to swoop in and steal her from you.

Whenever you drop her off or part ways make sure you tell her you had a nice time, that she was a lot of fun and that you would like to take her out again.  If you get the appropriate response, ask her what day will work best for her and tell her you will call her in a day or two to finalize plans (and be sure you actually do.)

Now you just have to repeat these steps for date number three.

Until tomorrow, make it a better day!

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