Hello dear readers! I hope, as always, you are having a very productive and fulfilling week.
I started this blog three-and-a-half years ago, not with the intent on making any kind of money (which I haven’t) but rather utilizing my writing ability to hopefully help encourage men, to be “better.” I have tried to take an honest approach to all things male and those topics/interests that influence our lives the most as men.
Over this time I have not held back, including writing two powerful articles about how awful my job was at Ernst & Young, which of course got me into trouble and resulted in my old boss (in NYC) hating me. I have also tried to write openly and honestly about my own struggles, which many of you I know have appreciated. Of course I have also taken the time to write or share with you funny, humorous and hopefully helpful stories to make your days or weeks a little bit better. Likewise, I have never been afraid to write blogs to help you idiots get laid, get a date or simply include stupid stuff with pictures of beautiful women to take your mind off things for a bit. Finally, I have tried to help you bozo’s with your fashion game because it needs it!
However, after 3+ years of writing I think it may be time to hang up the gloves. For the few of you who have reached out to encourage me in my writing and to comment on how I have helped you etc, I will be forever grateful.
Aside from a few rare moments when I have managed to get shared on other blogs, we have consistently been running at only about 70 – 100 views a week and sometimes as low as 30 – 50. Some of those views are my wife so I have to discount those numbers even further (sorry babe!)
I didn’t start this blog in the hopes of having 1.1m views a week. Besides I don’t have the time to keep up with that active of a blog anyway. My goal, like I said was to help other men to be better than they were the day before. I just don’t think I am having the impact I wanted to have on reaching out to men. Some of that is on me for not staying on top of blogging more frequently and in failing to provide fresh content daily. That has been a real struggle at times for me since I am, for the most part, the only one writing stuff for Be a Better Man.
I have tried to partner with other bloggers with varying degrees of success. Many of the bloggers ended up fizzling out and not coming through on their promises and/or content. Others have been kind enough to share my posting on their websites which has boosted traffic here, but only for 3 – 4 days and it drops off again. Some of the larger outlets such as The Good Men Project wouldn’t really allow me to write the way I wanted to write. After all, you can’t dare offend anyone these days, unless they are white Christian males. I didn’t want to write something that was contrary to my core values or the core values I believe we should live by as men. All they wanted to write about was the “modern” view of masculinity which apparently is all touchy-feely these days rather than a kick in the pants. Any attempt to write or encourage “typical” male behavior was heavily frowned upon. You couldn’t tell a man he was wrong (even if he was) or that his behavior was idiotic (unless that behavior was consistent with a Christian world view, which of course, was more than fair game for targeting) or to challenge him to be brave, strong and courageous, because apparently those aren’t core values for the “modern man.” There are just certain things I won’t do and compromising my core beliefs just for readership numbers isn’t something I am willing to do.
Studies have shown over and over again how important it is for men to come together to share their lives with each other. This can be done in many formats of course and can be spiritual in nature or not spiritual in nature. Men thrive in atmospheres of competitive accountability and encouragement. For many of us there is a certain comfort level that must be achieved in this kind of setting and it can take a long time to get there. However, once there is that comfort level the growth, maturity, unity and power of men is unrivaled.
I am very passionate about these topics and about men being better men. However, if I am not having an impact on men in this way through this blog than I must reconsider the personal as well as the financial cost of continuing to keep this blog up. Perhaps doing a weekly podcast would be more preferred over reading a blog every day. I am just not sure at this point.
My wife is begging me to keep the blog up because she likes to read what I write and thinks it is such a great resource for men but honestly, that is the problem. Don’t get me wrong it has been great to get feedback from women who say how much their husbands, boyfriends, brothers, fathers etc., need to hear or read what I write. Yet I rarely, if ever hear from any guys who say the same thing. It is not surprising that the largest response was to my blogs related to sex but I don’t want to write about sex everyday.
I am not officially shutting down the website yet and will keep writing as I have time until the end of the year. However, barring some kind of serious turnaround in readership numbers or an out pouring of support among the 10 people who stop by every day, it is likely that we will no longer be here come January 1.
For those of you who have stopped by on a regular basis I really do appreciate it, your comments and encouragement have always meant the world to me and allow me to keep going when things have gotten bleak for me. I hope you enjoy the rest of your week and have an amazing weekend planned!
Until next time, make it a better day!