“Show me your friends and I will show you your future.”
Cheers is one of my all time favorite television shows. I liked the show more after Diane’s character left but it is also hard to beat the early episodes when “Coach” was still around. I still remember watching the last couple of episodes with a bunch of my high school friends. Not all shows go out on top or with good endings but I think the finale to Cheers was perfect. If you are interested in watching the entire show you can find it streaming on Netflix.
Today’s post comes courtesy of C3 Journey. Obviously as you read this Jim Crumbly (the author) isn’t so much a fan of the show. Nor is he much of a fan of television in general. However, his overall point is accurate: who you call your friends will often times determine your future. I see it all the time.
I am not sure I totally agree 100% with Jim’s views on Television but then again 80% of my television watching now involves Baby TV, Doc McStuffins or My Little Pony. I guess that means I am turning into a child? Anyway, there is a lot of food for thought and I hope you will spend some time thinking about who you are currently surrounding yourself with. I now turn it over to Jim…
“You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” Jim Rohn
From 1982 to 1993 the TV show Cheers was a top rated sitcom and a cultural phenomenon. The initial storyline held that the bartender, a recovering alcoholic and womanizer, Sam Malone, had the hots for the highly educated and snobby Diane Chambers. The remaining ensemble…an angry waitress with out of control kids, an insecure know it all Postman, a bumbling bartender and the likable “Norm” who was trying to drown out an unhappy marriage and unsatisfied life…rounded out the cast. None of their lives worked but everybody knew their name and somehow, that made it okay.
I remember reading an article “way back” about the influence that TV had over our personal choices. One of the examples that the writer gave was a close friend of hers, with many personality traits similar to the fictional Diane Chambers, had taken it upon herself to find her own “Sam Malone.” The results? Exactly what you would expect. The friend found herself deeply disappointed in her “Sam’s” ability to commit and ended up hurt and alone. (Editor’s Note: Who thinks this is good advice by the way?)
What does this have to do with Rohn’s quote?
If you don’t like how your life works; if you don’t like the state of your marriage…career…health…kids…then take a look at who you are spending time with. Considering that the average American spends over 5 hours per day watching TV and that most characters from TV shows are dysfunctional, immature and selfish is it no wonder that many of our lives reflect this same dysfunction, immaturity and selfishness?
You are more influenced by TV, Facebook and other distractions than you could imagine. Due to its need to rest, your mind has a finite ability to focus each day. If your focus is on mindless “entertainment” then this focus is who/what you become. Add to this the negative attitudes of people you work with and the end result is life without hope of change.
And now, dear brothers and sisters, one final thing. Fix your thoughts on what is true, and honorable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise. Keep putting into practice all you learned and received from me—everything you heard from me and saw me doing. Then the God of peace will be with you. Philippians 4:8-9
If you struggle with a mindset of negativity and offense then consider that what you fix your thoughts on is simply a reflection of what you have seen and heard. Paul encouraged the Philippians to put into practice what they had heard him say and saw him doing. Seeing and doing begins with hanging.
You can’t easily change where you work but you can change who you spend time with and, more importantly, you can change how you spend the limited time you have for yourself.
- Hang with God’s through His word….
- Spend time in worshipful prayer…
- Invest time in friends who are positive and whose lives work…
- Turn off the boob tube…
Control who you hang with and regain control over who you are.