A Good Woman…

 

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“He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord.” Proverbs 18:22

Yesterday the wife and I went to the gym after work.  I often find the gym a great place to observe exemplary male behavior (*eye roll*).  Last night was no different.  I won’t bore you with the details other than to say I had the chance to overhear two guys complaining about their wives and/or women.  I couldn’t tell if they were married (no rings) but one guy sounded like he was married while the other one was likely not just based on the conversation.

Look I know we all have bad experiences with the opposite sex (I could tell you plenty) but here is the bottom line: finding a wife is indeed a good thing.  Whether you are a believer in God and/or the Bible doesn’t matter.  Getting married to a good woman will change your life in ways you cannot even begin to imagine.  As men I think it is our attitude that needs the work, not our wives or girlfriends.

I will take just one moment to mention the importance of selecting the “right” woman.  There are plenty of wrong fish in the sea (again I can speak from experience).  We have to be careful to select a woman who is a “good faith woman.”  That is a woman who generally cares about us and people as a whole.  A woman who isn’t in a relationship for selfish gain but generally desires to be in a relationship that is positive and growing.  I have often found the problem isn’t the woman we choose to date or marry but rather our selection process (or lack of one.)  Too many of us select a woman strictly on her measurements, lack of material in her clothing choices or other similarly stupid criteria.  That doesn’t mean you can’t have all of those things in your spouse but if that is your top priority you cannot complain when her personality is a disaster of epic proportions – charm is deceptive and beauty is fleeting.

Your wife is there for YOUR benefit not hers.  Sure she might want to have children with you but nowadays she doesn’t even need us for that!  She has signed on with you because for better or worse she believes in the man that you are but more importantly the man you can become.  She believes you have what it takes to be a leader of her family.  Truth is we are all rough around the edges (some more than others) whenever we enter into a relationship.  However, when you marry a good woman she is going to help smooth out those rough edges and make you a better man.  At least if you allow her to.

Men, we need to understand that our wives only have our best interests in mind.  If you find a good faith woman she will do you good and not harm all the days of your life.  She will never stop looking out for you, your children or your family.  She will help reign in your stupidity when necessary and encourage you to take risks when appropriate.  She will support you and give you a source of strength you never thought imaginable.  You will grow in respect among your peers and colleagues without even having to exert any effort to do so.  Your wife will speak with wisdom and kindness and she will help to fill your home with joy, laughter and peace.  And before you dismiss the previous sentence, have you ever come home from work to find a home not filled with those things?  It is awful.

None of the above is to suggest you won’t have struggles or that you won’t have arguments.  You cannot put two people with totally different characteristics into a house or apartment and not expect there to be sparks.  Arguing is actually normal and healthy in a relationship.  It is going to happen you just have to accept it and realize it is part of your life.  As long as you don’t act like a knucklehead everything will work out.

If things are less than desirable in your marriage or relationship quit blaming her and ask yourself what is it that you are doing to add to the problem.  You might not be 100% at fault but your contributions to the problems are the only thing you can actually change to make it better.  I promise if you take responsibility for your actions your good faith woman will notice and if she needs to make similar corrections will do so.  Your job is to love her.  That is it.  You do that (and don’t speak ill of her at the gym) you will have the best life imaginable.

Until tomorrow, make it a great day!

Andrew Sloss

Don’t Fight Alone

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Sometimes as believers it is hard for us to completely relinquish control to God. We often think we can do things on our own and fix whatever is “wrong” in our lives. It all comes down to trusting God and trusting His nature. If God is going to battle for you, it is important that you understand and trust Him! When it comes to helping us God is a warrior!

“The Lord himself will fight for you. You won’t have to lift a finger in your defense!” Ex. 14:14 

“Each one of you will put to flight a thousand of the enemy, for the Lord your God fights for you, just as he has promised.” Josh. 23:10 

 

I know when things get difficult for me and enemies are all around, I often struggle with letting God do His thing. I get stuck thinking they are attacking me and me alone. However, if someone or something is picking a fight with you they have to come against you AND God! If you let God fight your battles for you, victory is always assured. Only God can cause confusion among your enemies and have them turn on one another.

Be encouraged today for no matter what fights you are facing you don’ have to face them alone!

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“The Lord stands beside me like a great warrior. Before him they will stumble. They cannot defeat me. They will be shamed and thoroughly humiliated. Their dishonor will never be forgotten. Jer. 20:11 

Until next week have an amazing weekend!

 

Andrew

Enjoy Burnt Biscuits

I didn’t write this story and whether it actually happened or not isn’t the point.  The lesson contained within the story is all that matters.  This is a great example of “doing the little” things in a marriage to make life easier on your spouse.  If men would only learn that sometimes it is just better to eat a burnt biscuit and be happy about it, they would have stronger marriages and families.

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When I was a kid, my Mom liked to make breakfast food for dinner every now and then. I remember one night in particular when she had made breakfast after a long, hard day at work. On that evening so long ago, my Mom placed a plate of eggs, sausage and extremely burned biscuits in front of my dad. I remember waiting to see if anyone noticed!

All my dad did was reach for his biscuit, smile at my Mom and ask me how my day was at school. I don’t remember what I told him that night, but I do remember watching him smear butter and jelly on that ugly burned biscuit. He ate every bite of that thing… never made a face nor uttered a word about it!

When I got up from the table that evening, I remember hearing my Mom apologize to my dad for burning the biscuits. And I’ll never forget what he said, “Honey, I love burned biscuits every now and then.”

Later that night, I went to kiss Daddy good night and I asked him if he really liked his biscuits burned. He wrapped me in his arms and said, “Your Mom put in a hard day at work today and she’s real tired. And besides, a little burned biscuit never hurt anyone!”

As I’ve grown older, I’ve thought about that many times. Life is full of imperfect things and imperfect people. I’m not the best at hardly anything, and I forget birthdays and anniversaries just like everyone else. But what I’ve learned over the years is that learning to accept each other’s faults and choosing to celebrate each other’s differences is one of the most important keys to creating a healthy, growing, and lasting relationship.

We could extend this to any relationship. In fact, understanding is the base of any relationship, be it a husband-wife or parent-child or friendship!

So, please pass me a biscuit, and yes, the burned one will do just fine.

Be kinder than necessary because everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle.

Until tomorrow!

Andrew

Opening Day

Today is the first day of this blog.  You can read more information about myself or the purpose for this blog at the tabs listed towards the top of the page.

I am just using this initial post as a place holder as I play around with the design of the blog.  I am sure most people would advise me to simply wait until the design was completed and I had a few posts ready for everyone to read before I “went live.”  Well I am not a terribly patient person and am excited to get started.

I have spent most of my first day swearing at my computer as I am trying to figure out how the layout of this blog should look etc.  This is the best I can come up with so far.  I might have to bring in an expert or at least someone who knows this stuff better than myself.

That is it for now.  Hopefully I will have some good posts coming up by the end of the week!

 

Andrew

Because we can always be better men