I have been kicking around this earth for 42 1/2 years and during that time I have made my fair share of difficult decisions. I am sure you have as well. Facing difficult choices and having to choose one path or the other is a constant in life, especially once you leave adolescence and venture into full blow adulthood.
Typically the older you get, the tougher the decisions. This is true for one simple truth: there is more to lose as you get older. If you are married you have to consider your spouse. If you have kids you have to consider them as well. Even if you aren’t married and don’t have kids, decisions still get more difficult because the margin of error is reduced as we get older. If you don’t believe me, tell me how you feel after a night of drinking in your 30’s compared to your 20’s (Just wait until you are in your 40’s!)
For those of you reading this who don’t know, I was laid off from my job in April 2016 and as of today I am still unemployed. Well, I have a job but it is a contract job. It has been a long and difficult journey with some ups but a much larger population of downs. It has been trying on my wife and I and of course on our marriage (as most situations like this tend to be.)
A few weeks ago I was presented with this opportunity to accept a long term contract position with a company in Minnesota (we live in Tennessee.) Being completely unable to find a job in Tennessee and with our money running out the job is a total blessing from God. It will make it possible to make our mortgage payments every month and help out a bit with other bills. We are grateful to God for the opportunity, even while we struggle to not understand why I can’t find something permanent to support my family.
My wife and I made the extremely difficult decision to take the job. However, it means that I get to see my family two days every two weeks. If the contract goes the full six or seven months without me finding a permanent gig, it is likely I will see my wife and daughter less than 20 days between now and the end of the year. TWENTY DAYS!
Tomorrow I am so excited to be going home so I can squeeze my little girl and kiss my wife. Yet I know how quickly these two days will go by followed by another two weeks before I get to see them again. It is rough. I don’t like it and I really struggle with being away. I need to be earning money for my family but at the same time I feel like I am completely abandoning them. It is a strange dynamic in my my head.
Anyway, that is where we are at here in Tennessee. Believing that God has our blessing around the next corner and that the corner is coming up quickly. Stay tuned and if you are of the mind to send up a prayer for us we appreciate it.
See you on the flippity flop!